Posts Tagged ‘annoyance’

What is truth?

We ask ourselves, what  is the truth?  The truth is actually a continuum of our life. Sometimes we place it in the back of our mind. In one of our most distressful moments, it comes out to haunt us. We can never dismiss it because it is the truth. Why not tell the truth at the very beginning or try not place yourself in a position where the truth  may arise. If one finds himself/herself  backed against the wall,  rather than lie on an innocent person,  simply say use your own judgement. You may be right or you may be wrong. That is too ridiculous for me to even comment. Never lie. The truth always catches up and strangles you.

It was at least fifty years ago, a very married man ask me for a date. I said no. He had what most women would die for. He was tall, rich as any black man was at that time, handsome with  a reputation  for  getting whatever he wanted. I suppose at first it didn’t mean anything to him that I said no. I was just a little annoyance to him. How dare I said no to him. Eventually I was told if I didn’t submit it would be spread around that I liked an alternate life style. Of course that was devastating to hear. His words were widely disseminated.  At that time people were less tolerant of people who lived alternate life styles. However, I stood my ground, I still said no.  My Mom was no help. She said is that all he said. Stop crying, as you grow older there will be worst things said about you.

The gentleman who was no gentleman is not around any more. However he did start the rumor which was a vicious lie. Today, as an old woman, I am still defending my truth. I am not now nor have I ever been a home breaker nor do I live an alternate life style.

For him,  ego played a healthy part.  At any cost to any one who feels they are right, one thing I am sure of.  God is watching everyone. There are times an escape goat is needed. The individual must be told, look further. I am not your escape goat. When I was a child. there was a song that said “You have the wrong party, hold the phone. You are just an old smarty, hold the phone”.  We may manage to hide our trues from our friends and love ones but you  can’t hide from God.  For some of the women in the Me Too camp, the truth came thirty or forty years late but they are now able to say- Me Too.

Power endures for a minute, but God is forever. Truth may lie dormant for a while but like the phoenix,  the “truth” will rise.

Sometimes Travelling is a big Headache

I should not complain about holiday travelling, but I will. We go from one city,town, state or country to another city, town, state or country for the privilege of saying I traveled during the holidays. We go by car, train, airplane or boat. Some of us travel with our children and our pets. It’s okay if you are travelling with children and pets in your private accommodations. It becomes problematic when you are travelling on a public train, bus, plane or boat.
Your ears may have adjusted to all of that bazaar noise. However, consider your fellow travelers, the noise may present an annoyance problem for them. In case you don’t know, your baby and your pet’s poof stinks. Your nose may have become blind to the odor. But, the public’s nose has not. Don’t leave your baby in the care of someone else, but put your pet in a kennel. Yes, I know the pet or pets are a part of your family, but they are not a part of mine. To you, they are cute little people with four legs, but to me they are just pet-z pets. If it is a good Pet boarding home, they will be okay until you return. In fact, they will give you more love because you gave them time to miss you. Take pictures of your pet(s) to show your family and friends. They will appreciate the pictures much more than they will enjoy seeing them. If you choose to take them, you nor your pets may be invited back. People are funny that way. They love their own pets not yours.
They might tell others we loved having him/her here for the holidays, but he/she disrupted our lives with her/his pet-z pets. Don’t invite him/her unless you want extra company. Where ever he/she goes, they go together. He/she don’t scold them either. He/she will sit there and watch them chew or scratch up your family or friends’ sofa and think what they are doing is cute. IT IS NOT CUTE! When the holiday ends, everyone will breath a sigh of relief and say thank heavens it’s over.
Now, about that baby. I suppose you’ll just have to take that pet-z little baby with you. Grandmother and grandfather will never forgive you if you leave him/her in the care of the Nanny. To make Grandma and Grandpa happy, you’ve got to bring that crying, diaper changing product evacuation from the bowels BABY.
When you leave, don’t forget to say HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

Carrie Ware

Pass It On

As I stood in line the day before Christmas, at one of the Subway Restaurants here in Birmingham, I struggled to find my money. I was totally embarrassed because my shopping etiquette, or lack of, held up the line. It was in the heart of the shopping extravagance and no one had the patience we all need at Christmas. A sweet lady standing behind whispered don’t worry, I will pay for you. I was totally happy.
At my in-laws Christmas dinner, I shared that story. One of my nieces said that is so sweet. She told me she had a life changing experience. A homeless man was standing on the street corner with a sign that read: I will work for food. A gentleman in front of her reached on his back seat and gave the man a box of crackers and a can of meat. Obviously, he had no money to give the stranger, but he gave him what he had. That is all we are asked to do. Share what you have. You don’t, nor should you, go into debt to show your love for anyone. Life is so precious. He came that we might have life and have it more abundantly. The true meaning of Christmas is to let the world see Christ in you. My niece said that gesture of kindness gave her an idea. She is going to carry a box of crackers and a can of meat in her car. Whenever she see someone with a sign saying they are hungry, she will have something to offer them.
If you are provoked by any little annoyance that might occur during the holiday season with your family, your friends, your neighbors, your co-workers or strangers; let it go. You will bring peace to yourself as well as peace on Earth and Goodwill to all men.